To send a physical RSVP or to not send a physical RSVP, that is the question! We are in the age of technology and most of the demographic getting married is technical, but how do you ask great grandma to go to your E-vite and RSVP? Or Uncle Larry, he doesn’t even own a computer! This is a question I get from a lot of brides. Do you just send paper RSVP to those who need it and then invite everyone else digitally? Do you invite everyone with physical RSVP cards and potentially spend $100’s on postage for no one to even return the RSVP in the first place? Do you just invite everyone online and ask to RSVP online and take verbal confirmations from those who are not on the internet? This is one place you can spend a lot of money when you don’t really have to.
My advice, do what is right for you but be conscious of what you are spending and the results you want to achieve. For example, sending physical RSVP cards to a demographic of ages 18-34 and expecting us to fill it out and take it to the mail box is probably unreasonable and you will be left disappointed and out money you did not need to spend in postage. Millennials want things done fast and efficient, that process is neither of those. I would suggest creating a wedding website using Zola.com or Square Space for the majority of your friends to respond on. In partner with that, I would also suggest sending a beautiful, physical invitation with no RSVP card but the website address or your phone number. I would then also include an email blast with a link to the website, making it easy for people to RSVP in multiple ways. This way you will only be spending money on postage to send out invitations, if you want to, and most everyone will reply if they are coming for you to have an accurate head count, on time and with little frustration of trying to get people to RSVP.